Nasty decisions

Why do we take nasty decisions sometimes? It seems everything is going on just perfect, when somebody does something very surprising, shocking which completely changes the scene. Most of the times, the wrong decision taken makes a person suffer, makes his family, colleagues, friends suffer, but, still people stick on those decisions. What may be the mindscape behind this?

He was working and earning good. He successfully developed a good reputation, friend circle in his institution. Slowly, but surely, he was progressing, when at once he resigned. All his friends, his colleagues, his seniors tried hard to convince him, but his decision remained unchanged. Today, he is struggling again for job. Whoever knows him, calls him an unfortunate fellow. His one decision cost him his job, friends, reputation. However, he does not care for all this. He still supports his decision to resign a good organization. Why?

She was hardly seventeen or early eighteen when she decided to marry and give birth to her drunkard, flirt and jobless boyfriend’s child. Today, she works hard, for her child and lives away from her husband, who is still a jobless flirt. However, she still never regrets her decision.

In another case, a beautiful adorable girl, whose family cares for her a lot, wants to be live-in with her boyfriend, disobeying her caring parents. Here too, everyone else other than her firmly says that her decision is wrong, while she supports it.
Most of the time, everyone—not necessarily our friend, family or a person who knows us, but also the one who do not know us at all—too could analyze that our decision is wrong. Sometimes, at the particular point, even we realize that we were wrong, but still we insist on what we were decided. What makes us such stubborn? Firstly, what makes us to take an altogether wrong decision?, Our confusion, helplessness, immaturity, ego, or simply a psychological, or a mental disorder?

In some cases, people realize the mistake but the situation is like ‘It is now too late’ for them. Then, they start supporting their wrong did so that others would not be aware by their frustration. To hide their defeat, helplessness they start glorifying good results of their decision. While doing this, they look pitiful. They turn offensive, rather aggressive sometimes to hide their frustration. Do such people are mentally stable? We can call hardly a few people among these as mentally strong or stable. They realize their mistake, they admit it, and they try to recover from the disaster. This is, rather this should be the basic tendency to survive. “Yes, I was wrong, but I will try my best to be right again” should be the ideal attitude. Unfortunately, very few culprits among us have a heart to accept their mistakes.

Do the man, who left his good-going job for no reason will admit that he was wrong at that time?, do the lady, who is living a life of disgust would admit her mistake of getting married with an irresponsible person? Does the girl, wishing to be live-in with her boyfriend, disobeying loving parents have the heart to admit that she is completely wrong? No one among these three, no one among such hundreds of people and it is difficult even to get one even from one thousand such people. However, that ‘ one’; may be among ten thousand, or one lakh; who admits the mistake openly and starts a sincere try to recover from it, is a gem of a person. Until now, I have encountered with many nasty decision makers, but still awaiting for a gem.